Ladies and gentlemen,
Allow me to introduce you to one of the most toxic & dangerous personalities, yeah…dangerous.
It’s the reason behind strained and violent relationships, divisions in organizations, mental instability in communities and of course social mishaps…… I introduce to you……. The Narcissist.
Narcissist are self-made gods. Their motto is always “it’s either my way or the highway”.
Their values are inconsistent but are mostly dependent on their motives.
Their desire is gaining power, wealth and recognition. They easily ride on others while making a name for themselves.
A narcissist easily forgets who supported or made them, once they achieve their goals.
Narcissist operate with groups of liked minded people. They are very insensitive, and see themselves as kings/queens when they look into a mirror.
Their pleasure is derived from inflicting pain in others. They only respect people in power or are influential when it comes to wealth.
They easily pretend in given situations, rubbish people and engage in acts of favorism. They manipulate circumstances, things, systems, people, rules, roles and regulations to achieve their goals by all means.
In a relationship, they are very insensitive, controlling and abusive. Going by this character, they are mostly unfaithful to their partners, make justifications for their actions, make their partners feel less of themselves and imperfect, while the narcissist plays the perfect, Mr. or Mrs. Right. They are not afraid of their promiscuity.
In public, they wear the mask of a very responsible, caring, loving person while their real mask is the envious, selfish, controlling, egoistic self.
Their partners are always stressed and for those who get empowered, they walk out of the toxic relationships.
In groups, they are very good at dubious strategies but sadly, other than just winning and looking powerful, they have no concrete reason to win any battle,
other than “our way or the highway”.
They derive energy and confidence from each other, but can hardly face an issue whether relationship based or otherwise as individuals. Their reasoning ability is based on “ego” “self pettiness” and “lies”
They love being praised and will do anything to get attention, as it boosts their ego. They make rushed decisions and rarely are accomodative or focused on mentally healthy environment. What they want is what has to be, by all means.
They rarely observe boundaries and can be very intimidating to cultivate fear in people. On the flip side, people will mostly cooperate because of fear.
As children, they most likely had a difficult childhood growing up, lacked in provision as well as in love attention.
As a way of compensating for their experiences if they did not cope well, their character comes out in harshness.
They make poor spouses, leaders, friends because of being selfish and use people to boost themselves or gain what they lacked in their childhood developmental stages of life.
Do you have a narc friend?
Are you dating or married to a narcissist?
Well, do not be afraid of seeking help.
Behavior can be learned, un-learnt, relearned.
A counselor can help you get to a place of making sound decisions and live a holistic life.
Being aware about your personality gives you an opportunity to change.
Don’t suffer in silence speak out.
